How To Stop Them in Their Tracks !!!!
We can all relate to irritating characters we are unfortunate enough to have to work with. This is just a simple run through on the different varieties of personalities in the workplace. My inspiration for this article is the "fantastic" characters I work with. Damn, what a day!!!
My director is F……..king irritating … I really can’t understand her …. Ask for B stuff and went I summit B stuff … she ask for A … even both also same collaboration… Damn irritating … I hate her totally!!!!
People who irritate you might become people who interest you, once you learn how to handle them.
Maybe your partner is a pain in the neck or your supervisor gets up your nose. Performing your job on the front lines is stressful enough. The last thing you need is static behind the scenes.
Because dealing with oafs is unpleasant, people avoid addressing the problems they cause, allowing the irritants to gain positive reinforcement and attention for their negative behavior. If changing shifts or getting promoted above the irritating supervisor isn't likely, try these nine strategies for handling workplace adversaries.
1. Who's the problem? Is the irritant's behavior counterproductive or merely annoying? People ruffle our feathers because they smoke, speak with a wheedling tone, don't smile, are from a different culture we don't understand, or whatever. In that case, the problem is self-made. Get over it. Otherwise…
2. Meet for conflict resolution. Conflicts can be resolved in five steps. 1) Jointly define the external objective rather than focusing on your disagreement. 2) Reverse perspectives. State your understanding of the irritant's point of view and vice verse. 3) Brainstorm ideas for achieving the objective. 4) Agree to try one or more of the ideas. 5) Play fair.
3. Make your point and let it go. Irritating people won't sign confessions or promise never to aggravate you again. They will, however, mentally note that you're a reasonable person who doesn't tolerate oafs behaving badly.
4. Put the burden on them. For example, calmly say, "You've interrupted me again. Are you willing to let me finish my sentence?" This works better than saying, "You're rude! Didn't your parents teach you not to interrupt?" Condemnation and accusations are preludes to warfare.
5. Don't make excuses. Avoid exonerating phrases like, "You had a bad day. That's why you yelled at me." Say your piece straight and sincere: "I didn't deserve to be yelled at in front of those customers."
6. Show character. In the face of threats, police are calm, professional, rational and unhurried. These characteristics that mark excellent co-workers are vital even when—especially when—colleagues are agitated, impolite, unpleasant, unprofessional, irrational and frantic.
7. Never say never, every, always. Irritating people will argue the exceptions instead of listening to your statement. "You never co-operate," is an exaggeration. On the other hand, "We don't see eye to eye on this. What do you think we could do?" invites dialogue, negotiation.
8. Stick to the path. Masters of manipulation change the subject, attack, accuse, excuse, plead, rationalise, throw tantrums, ignore you, flatter you and debate unanswerable questions. Don't let 'em sidetrack you.
9. Don't unload on others. Complaining to friends and family makes them feel helpless because they can't rescue you. Complaining to workmates creates bad vibes and disrupts harmony. After you've exhausted every other strategy, elevate the problem to an authority that can intervene on your behalf and offer suggestions you're willing to consider.
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